I learned an important lesson today.
No, it wasn’t “go to sleep at a normal hour.” That will be a lesson for another day, unfortunately.
But I did learn how to conserve my energy when debating. Just one step at a time.
See, I got a couple people’s attention on Twitter when I criticised somebody for retweeting something with a homophobic and sexist slur in it. I was lucky that they were respectful enough and simply started debating me (instead of insulting me). I responded to some, but selectively. Here are examples of what I responded to:
“But I’m not homophobic! I love gay people and women!”
“You’re being a bit touchy. You shouldn’t let things get under your skin.”
Things I didn’t reply to:
“This really pissed me off. Bitch is just a word, who cares.”
“Bitch you should have to repeat yourself bitch.” (Referring to the fact that I had to repeat myself on a couple occasions)
Note the vitriolic undertones in the second lot. It may seem like a no-brainer, but I usually bite when I see anger thrown at me. This time I decided not to respond, and it worked out well. The three who responded to me less angrily (I won’t say politely, because one of them did call me “illiterate”) all left the argument in a neutral way. “Good luck with your endevours,” “I respectfully agree to disagree,” and “It was nice knowing you. Take care.”
Now, this is not to say that other people can’t get into more anger-laced disagreements, or that you don’t have the right to stand up against oppression in an aggressive manor. It’s just that I cannot handle that kind of confrontation. It burns me out, and then I can’t work to contribute to society the way I hope to.
So I really hope that this is the beginning of a less angst-ridden path for me, on the subject of debating and disagreeing.
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~ by owlcat on 28 June, 2013.